I just have to say that I'm SO proud of my daughter!
We've moved past the "poor me, my favorite Aunt cannot come". In fact, Cindy received a letter from her Aunt, explaining the news. Now, Cindy plans on writing BACK to tell Aunt Martha that she understands. :~)
It's such a joy to see my caring daughter reach out and give back some of the love she's been given.
Meanwhile, we're moving into the mode of planning a celebration! I don't know what that's going to look like yet, but I trust that it will be something memorable. Instead of racking my brain trying to figure out what would make it memorable for Cindy, I've simply asked HER to tell me!
As a divorced mom, I was also struggling with whether to include Cindy's dad and his family in celebration plans. Why do I always immediately think that I'M responsible for arranging things for him and his family??? I'm NOT MARRIED TO HIM any more! So, I did an amazing (for me anyway) thing. I called him on the phone, told him the date and time of the graduation, and said that if he and his family wanted to celebrate with Cindy, they would need to arrange it with her!
Do I sound like I'm learning what's my responsibility and what isn't? I think so, and, for today, that's a wonderful feeling.