Sunday, November 22, 2009

Unexpected Curves on Life's Journey

Talk about some curves! Here are some of the ways my life has been turned upside down in the past few weeks:

1. My son was in an auto accident. He braked to miss a deer on the road, lost control, and slammed into a telephone pole. Thankfully, he's alive! He has his broken jaw wired shut, a broken nose, broken bones around his eye, and a broken collar bone. I drove the 3 hours to go see him last weekend in the hospital. It was hard to see him in that shape, and harder still to leave to drive back home!

2. A long-time close, supportive friendship seems to have ended. What more can I say, than to say that this hurts. This was the friend I would have called first when I learned that my son was hurt. I've heard that when one door closes, another will be open. The trick is to avoid staring for too long at that closed door. I've been finding myself doing my share of staring back, though. Maybe I need to, just for a little while, so that I can feel my feelings of grief over the lost relationship.

3. Speaking of open doors......... I've actually been on my first date since 1979! You see, I was married in 1980 and divorced in 2004. Since then I've been finding healing in many ways. On the very same day that I learned of my friends desire to back away from our friendship, I was introduced to a charming man, who later asked me out on a date! Can you imagine how exciting AND how scary it can be to start dating after 30 years!!!!!!! Whew!

So, for now, one day at a time, I'll keep trusting that God is not surprised by any of the changes along this curvy journey I'm taking. Whatever comes, I'm not alone.

Oh, by the way, this picture came from Flickr....... if you click on it, it will link to the original post. My understanding is that it's OK to post with a link. :~)


Donna Henderson said...

Nice blog, and I like what you've written. I can't imagine going on a date again, either, but can't help but wonder if the day may come. I hope you had a good time! Thanks for following my blog and your kind comments. I do appreciate it more than you know.

Jayne said...

Oh Evelyn, how scary. So glad that other than the broken bones, your son is OK.

I have found that many times, friendships end because they are meant to. Maybe you've grown more than that person, or the energy it takes to maintain it becomes too costly. Whatever reason, you'll be able to look back and know the reason.

How exciting you are dating again!! You go girl!

Indeed, you are NEVER alone in any of your journeys, and just knowing that, makes it all much less scary.

Hugs to you!!

A New England Life said...

My mom once told me that life never stops changing and I believe it. We grow, learn, lose a little a long the way, and gain something else.

I feel such compassion for your son. Oh my what a terrible thing to go through. Really awful.

I've had to let go of long time relationships too. It hurts but it cleanses me at the same time.

Wishing you a wonderful evening out with a 'friend'. Surely you deserve it ; )